How To Move On From A Bad Relationship
By Unknown - Tuesday, March 19, 2013
How To Move
On From A Bad Relationship
It has to
end. No matter how painful it is, that time is now. Breaking up is never easy.
Deciding to end a relationship, no matter how imperfect it is, will
always be emotionally and mentally traumatic. In spite of the imperfections,
you did share wonderful and intimate times together. Like what they say,
memories are easy to make but are hard to forget and remembering makes it harder
to move on. That person you are saying goodbye to has been a part of you.
Detaching yourself from him can be very painful and unimaginable. But like
everything else in life, think that this too, shall pass and no matter how hard
it is to move on, in the end, things will fall into its place.
"Things do happen for a
reason" and "What doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger",
these clichés are very important to psyche yourself up to move on from a break
up. To move on from a bad relationship, you need to remember and do a few
things. First, you have got to put it in your head that it is over. No more
hoping, no more fantasizing that he will call you and get back together. Once
you get this into your system, allow yourself to cry your heart out. It’s healthy
to cry because you are actually saying goodbye to him and to his memories.
Aside from crying, expect that you will be very angry at a certain level.
You will be angry at
yourself, at him or to your friend who introduced you to him. Again, this is
normal but you have to deal with your anger in a healthy way. Some write, while
others talk it out with friends. Some engage themselves into work, others take
boxing lessons. My point is you should have a healthy outlet for all your
angst. To move on from a break-up, it also helps if you get rid of anything
that reminds you of him. This means removing his number in your cellphone,
deleting his pictures in your mobile phone gallery and throwing away all those
memorabilia he gave you.
Keeping a remembrance from
him can only prolong your state of nostalgia. Don’t torture yourself. Also, if
you want to move on from a bad relationship, never romanticize your past. Yes,
he was a great lover and he was thoughtful at times but snap out of it! Letting
all those mushy things get into your head can make you weak and again make you
think twice about the break up. If you want to move on then guard yourself from
romanticizing your past. It helps if you jot down the things that you hate
about him or the reason why you broke up with him in the first place. Be
ruthless and honest, take this note out when you feel weak and had the urge to
call him.
How to get over someone who
has been with you for a couple of months or years can be depressing but ones
you have learned to take care of yourself without him, its not as bad as you
think it is. So if you want to move on take good care of yourself. Eat right,
sleep right, dance, sing, go to the gym, and hang out with friends. If you feel
good physically, you’ll feel good mentally and emotionally. Don’t be afraid to
move on, it may be the greatest gift that you have given yourself.
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